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Jan 21, 2013
How to Write a Professional Cover Letter
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16 Policemen Burnt To Death In Auto Crash
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Sixteen policemen, who had just passed out of Police College were yesterday burnt to death at Omu-Aran area of Kwara State following an auto crash involving a Mercedes Benz car and a Hummer bus.
According to eyewitnesses, the accident occurred at about 9:00 a.m in front of the Federal Government Girls College, Omu-Aran in Irepodun Local Government Area of the state.
The Toyota Hummer bus which the policemen chattered was travelling from Ilorin to Nasarawa State, while the Mercedes Benz car with number plate Kaduna AB 347 BKA was coming from the opposite direction and rammed into the “police vehicle.”
The impact it was said was massive and caused the fire to erupt. Rescuers who arrived too late couldn’t do anything as the two vehicles were said to have been burnt into ashes before their arrival.
Three of the victims however survived and were rushed to Omu-Aran General Hospital where they are receiving treatment.
It was learnt that the policemen were indigenes of Kwara who were trained in Lagos. They reportedly made a detour to Ilorin enroute Nasarawa State where they were allegedly posted to before they met their untimely death.
Confirming the accident, the Police Public Relations Officer, Fabode Femi, who said the police were aware of the accident, however, added that he was yet to confirm the number of casualty.
He assured that he would brief the press as soon as he was able to get the accurate figure of the victims.
Aliko Dangote Acquires Multi Million Naira Luxury Yacht
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Report has it that the richest man in African, Aliko Dangote, recently
took delivery of a luxury yacht said to be worth millions of Naira. The
Yacht, which was specially built for him, is called Mariya, and it’s currently sitting at Carrington Crescent, behind Femi Otedola’s office in Victoria Island.
Obama takes oath of office, begins second term
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WASHINGTON – President Barack Obama took the oath of office Sunday to
begin a second term threatened by strife at home and abroad and amid
inaugural rituals lacking the hope and historic promise of 2009.
Obama, with a slight smile, took the oath at an intimate, private ceremony in the Blue Room of the White House lasting less than a minute, raising his right arm and placing his left hand on a family Bible.
The president solemnly swore to “faithfully execute the office of President of the United States” and to “preserve, protect and defend the Constitution of the United States, so help me God.”
Chief Justice Roberts, who stumbled when swearing in Obama to open his first term in 2009, read each line of the oath out loud, before the president repeated words first intoned by George Washington, 224 years ago.
After a ceremony lasting less than a minute, Obama hugged his wife, and children Malia, 14 and Sasha, 11 before quipping: “I did it” to his youngest daughter.
Obama will take the oath of office for a second time at a time-honored outdoor public ceremony at the US Capitol on Monday.
Vice President Joe Biden was sworn in before his boss at an early morning ceremony at his official residence, before the two laid a wreath at the Tomb of the Unknowns at Arlington National Ceremony.
Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor — picked by Obama to be the first Hispanic judge to sit on the top court in his first term — made her own slice of history by leading Biden as he took the oath.
As his first term waned, Obama worshipped at a prominent African American church in Washington, where the Reverend Ronald Braxton adapted the “Forward” motto of the president’s re-election campaign to the story of Moses.
“Forward was the only option,” said Braxton.
Obama, 51, will embark on a second term at a time of deep partisan division in Washington, and will face foreign crises testing his legacy, including Iran’s nuclear program and resurgent Islamist militancy in North Africa.
Senior aide David Plouffe said the president would use his second inaugural address before an expected 500,000 plus crowd — much smaller than in 2009 — to stress the national truths Americans share.
“He is going to talk about how our founding principles and values can still guide us in today’s modern and changing world,” Plouffe said on the ABC News show “This Week.”
“He is going to say that our political system does not require us to resolve all of our differences or settle all of our disputes, but it is absolutely imperative that our leaders try and seek common ground.”
Obama’s second inauguration, which comes courtesy of an election win over Republican Mitt Romney in November, lacks the historical resonance of January 20, 2009, when he was sworn in as the first black American president.
Since then, a graying Obama has struggled to accelerate a weak economic recovery, failed to meet hugely elevated expectations for his presidency and waged a political war of attrition with Republicans.
He begins anew with several fierce budget battles looming in Congress, and his “Yes We Can” rhetoric soured by sarcasm over the blocking tactics of Republicans in the partisan brouhaha paralyzing government in Washington.
Abroad, the US confrontation with Iran is fast-headed to a critical point with the specter of military action becoming ever more real the longer diplomacy over Tehran’s nuclear program remains stuck in neutral.
And terror strikes that killed Americans in Benghazi and Algeria call into question Obama’s election year sound bite that “Al-Qaeda is on the run,” despite the killing of Osama bin Laden in Pakistan in 2011.
Muscle-flexing by China and rising tensions in contested waters with its neighbors, as well as North Korea’s nuclear belligerence, will meanwhile test the president’s signature pivot of US diplomacy to Asia.
Obama was taking the oath of office on Sunday to comply with the US Constitution, which dictates his first term ends at noon on January 20.
Tradition states that when that date falls on a Sunday, a private swearing-in is followed on Monday by the public festivities, including the second oath taking, the address, parade and glittering inaugural balls.
Obama knows that for second term presidents, power quickly wanes and political potholes await.
The second term “curse” often strikes: Richard Nixon resigned, Bill Clinton was impeached, George W. Bush’s image was shattered by Iraq and Hurricane Katrina and Ronald Reagan’s legacy was marred by the Iran-Contra scandal.
Plouffe said however that with a full agenda, including immigration reform, gun control and speeding the economic recovery, Obama would hardly be shuffling around the White House looking for things to do.
Obama, with a slight smile, took the oath at an intimate, private ceremony in the Blue Room of the White House lasting less than a minute, raising his right arm and placing his left hand on a family Bible.
The president solemnly swore to “faithfully execute the office of President of the United States” and to “preserve, protect and defend the Constitution of the United States, so help me God.”
Chief Justice Roberts, who stumbled when swearing in Obama to open his first term in 2009, read each line of the oath out loud, before the president repeated words first intoned by George Washington, 224 years ago.
After a ceremony lasting less than a minute, Obama hugged his wife, and children Malia, 14 and Sasha, 11 before quipping: “I did it” to his youngest daughter.
Obama will take the oath of office for a second time at a time-honored outdoor public ceremony at the US Capitol on Monday.
Vice President Joe Biden was sworn in before his boss at an early morning ceremony at his official residence, before the two laid a wreath at the Tomb of the Unknowns at Arlington National Ceremony.
Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor — picked by Obama to be the first Hispanic judge to sit on the top court in his first term — made her own slice of history by leading Biden as he took the oath.
As his first term waned, Obama worshipped at a prominent African American church in Washington, where the Reverend Ronald Braxton adapted the “Forward” motto of the president’s re-election campaign to the story of Moses.
“Forward was the only option,” said Braxton.
Obama, 51, will embark on a second term at a time of deep partisan division in Washington, and will face foreign crises testing his legacy, including Iran’s nuclear program and resurgent Islamist militancy in North Africa.
Senior aide David Plouffe said the president would use his second inaugural address before an expected 500,000 plus crowd — much smaller than in 2009 — to stress the national truths Americans share.
“He is going to talk about how our founding principles and values can still guide us in today’s modern and changing world,” Plouffe said on the ABC News show “This Week.”
“He is going to say that our political system does not require us to resolve all of our differences or settle all of our disputes, but it is absolutely imperative that our leaders try and seek common ground.”
Obama’s second inauguration, which comes courtesy of an election win over Republican Mitt Romney in November, lacks the historical resonance of January 20, 2009, when he was sworn in as the first black American president.
Since then, a graying Obama has struggled to accelerate a weak economic recovery, failed to meet hugely elevated expectations for his presidency and waged a political war of attrition with Republicans.
He begins anew with several fierce budget battles looming in Congress, and his “Yes We Can” rhetoric soured by sarcasm over the blocking tactics of Republicans in the partisan brouhaha paralyzing government in Washington.
Abroad, the US confrontation with Iran is fast-headed to a critical point with the specter of military action becoming ever more real the longer diplomacy over Tehran’s nuclear program remains stuck in neutral.
And terror strikes that killed Americans in Benghazi and Algeria call into question Obama’s election year sound bite that “Al-Qaeda is on the run,” despite the killing of Osama bin Laden in Pakistan in 2011.
Muscle-flexing by China and rising tensions in contested waters with its neighbors, as well as North Korea’s nuclear belligerence, will meanwhile test the president’s signature pivot of US diplomacy to Asia.
Obama was taking the oath of office on Sunday to comply with the US Constitution, which dictates his first term ends at noon on January 20.
Tradition states that when that date falls on a Sunday, a private swearing-in is followed on Monday by the public festivities, including the second oath taking, the address, parade and glittering inaugural balls.
Obama knows that for second term presidents, power quickly wanes and political potholes await.
The second term “curse” often strikes: Richard Nixon resigned, Bill Clinton was impeached, George W. Bush’s image was shattered by Iraq and Hurricane Katrina and Ronald Reagan’s legacy was marred by the Iran-Contra scandal.
Plouffe said however that with a full agenda, including immigration reform, gun control and speeding the economic recovery, Obama would hardly be shuffling around the White House looking for things to do.
Bayero, injured sons flown to Britain
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How my brother died protecting Emir’
Emir of Kano Alhaji Ado Bayero was yesterday flown out of Nigeria to a hospital in the United Kingdom for medical checkup, following an unsuccessful attempt on his life by gunmen on Saturday.
Bayero flew out of the country shortly after 1pm on board a chartered Barbados Group aircraft along with his two sons, who were injured in the attack, through the Malam Aminu Kano International Airport.
He was accompanied to the airport by Kano State deputy governor Abdullahi Umar Ganduje and other state government officials.
In the attack on Saturday, three of the emir’s staff were shot dead when gunmen ambushed his motorcade which was pulling out of Hausawa area of Kano where he had attended a Qur’anic graduation ceremony and commissioning of Islamic school at Masallacin Murtala.
Witness accounts said about a dozen attackers fired at the emir’s car and other vehicles on the convoy, causing the death of his driver, orderly and a personal guard.
Also killed in the attack was interim chairman of Kumbotso Local Government Area, Alhaji Salisu Abdullahi Kura, and two others.
Bayero’s sons, Ciroman Kano Alhaji Sanusi Ado Bayero and Turakin Kano Alhaji Nasiru Ado Bayero, sustained gunshot wounds in the attack.
Reports also indicated that the monarch had been slightly injured by broken glasses, though Governor Rabi’u Kwankwaso and spokesman for the Joint Task Force (JTF) Captain Ikedichi Iweha said the emir escaped unhurt.
Speaking to newsmen at the Kano airport before the emir’s departure to the UK, Ganduje said Bayero was only traveling for routine medical checkup which had been scheduled even before the assault.
The deputy governor, who expressed gratitude to God for saving the life of the 83-year-old monarch, said the attackers had wished to kill him.
“However, they got those who protected him. But as you can see, he is flying to London not because of the incident, he is flying because it is time for him to go for medical checkup,” he said. He disclosed that security agents had arrested some persons suspected to have hands in the attack, and that some of the perpetrators were foreigners.
“While chatting with the emir, he recalled how the attackers appeared and started shooting, saying that from their looks, they comprised of people who are not from Kano and non-Nigerians,” said Ganduje.
“The situation is under control. I urge the people of the state to continue offering prayers and to continue cooperating with the security agencies, so that those people who are committing these crimes can be fished out.”
Also, the special adviser to Kano State governor on Emirate Council, Alhaji Tijjani Mailafiya Sanka, condemned Saturday’s attack and called on the people of the state to pass useful information to security forces.
Meanwhile, a security source informed Daily Trust that about half a dozen insurgents commanders came all the way from Bama in Borno State to coordinate the attack. The source added that five people had been arrested, out of which two were killed.
But when contacted, Captain Iweha said the JTF was still conducting investigations.
Before seeking medical attention abroad, Alhaji Ado Bayero attended prayers for peace in the state at the Kano Central mosque.
The prayer, which was led by the Chief Imam of Kano Prof Sani Zahraddeen, was also attended by members of the Emirate Council and other traditional rulers from the local government areas of the state.
The Chief Imam prayed God to prevent a recurrence of Saturday’s incident, and urged the people to continue to pray for peace.
A Torturous TrainRide
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They were eager to travel home by rail. They did, but the journey was harrowing for students, who travelled from Ilorin to the Southwest during the Yuletide. HAMEED MURITALA (300-Level Mass Communication, University of Ilorin) writes.
Lagos by train”, “Abeokuta by train”, “Ibadan by train”, “train lo sure ju” (train is the surest method of transportation). These are some of the phrases one hears from students of higher institutions the Southwest and parts of North Central, particularly Kwara State anytime they are travelling home on holidays.
The last Yuletide break was not different. Students of the University of Ilorin (UNILORIN) and Kwara State Polytechnic (KWARA POLY) and other institutions from neighbouring states such as the Federal University of Technology, Minna (FUT MINNA) and the Federal University of Technology, Akure (FUTA) besieged the Ilorin terminal of the Nigerian Railway Corporation (NRC).
They were travelling home to celebrate Christmas with their families. Students joined the swarm of travellers at terminals in Offa, Osogbo and Ibadan.
They thronged the railway stations with their luggage amid excitement. “For the first time in my life, I will travel from Ilorin to Lagos by rail,” said Olamide Azeez, an Abeokuta-bound passenger and 200-Level Sociology student of UNILORIN. “Elderly people always mock younger ones like me that our generation is not lucky to enjoy inter-state railway trip such as this,” Olamide added.
As early as 5am on December 23, the student-travellers got to the train station in Ilorin to purchase tickets for convenient seats in the coaches. Olamide said: “I came here with my friends from FUT MINNA and FUTA very early so that we could all get comfortable places to sit inside the train. On getting there, we even met some people who slept overnight at the station. “Apart from its affordability, I choose to go to Abeokuta by rail particularly because it is safer than road transportation,” the student added.
A few minutes before 7am, NRC officials started selling the tickets to travellers at the Ilorin terminal. There were first class and second class tickets. Their prices varied according to distance. For instance, a first class ticket for Ilorin-Lagos by rail cost N1,020; second class, N720.
Intermittently, the queues were disrupted by shunts and other eager passengers. In the chaotic exercise, some of the students sustained injuries, others lost personal effects such as wristwatches, wallets and mobile phones.
The overcrowded train left the Ilorin station by 9am amid greetings from food and recharge card vendors. The coaches were overcrowded, a situation which made passengers to sit in the trains toilets. Some hanged by the entrances; others sat on the roof of the coaches.
The journey turned out to be a disappointment for some. Akeem Adebayo, ND II Business Administration, KWARA POLY, rued the moment he decided to travel to Lagos by rail.
“I got to the train station around 6:30am, after which I bought a ticket and yet, I could not get a place to sit inside the train. I don’t think I have made a good decision by travelling by train because as I stand here, I am suffering myself for nothing,” he said
Abiodun Olatunji, 300-Level Mass Communication, UNILORIN, said: “If it is not that I want to see my family members this Christmas, I would not have travelled today, because the stress is too much. You can see that I will have to stand here (coach entrance) till we get to Abeokuta. This is outright discomfort.”
The affordability of the fare was the reason many of the students jumped aboard the train to their various home. According to Abdulwasiu Esuola, 200-Level Law, UNILORIN, the fare from Ilorin to Lagos is cheaper by rail compared to fare of road transport. “The journey to Lagos by bus would have cost me N2,500 but I paid only N720 by train,” he said.
The train had a stopover at Offa, Osogbo, Ede, Iwo, Ibadan and Abeokuta stations, before it finally berthed Lagos around 8pm. As they alighted from the train at each terminal, they exercised their body parts to stretch the stiff organs. Some of them urged the NRC to improve on the service by bringing comfortable coaches.
Abiola Laoye, 200-Level Engineering student of FUT MINNA, urged the government to fast-track the rehabilitation project of the rail transport, saying “this project will make travel by rail interesting for the passengers and create jobs for the people.”
Jan 19, 2013
Real Shocking earnings of Yoruba movie stars
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Quite a number of perks come with being a
movie star in this part of the world. They include designer clothes,
luxury cars and posh apartments.
Apart from their penchant for such status symbols,
today’s Nollywood actors and actresses are also seen as role models,
especially to the young and impressionable who dream of becoming stars
some day.
But, judging by the results of a recent investigation
conducted by Saturday Beats, it appears all that glitters is not gold,
after all.
Contrary to popular opinion, the life of the average Yoruba movie star is that of constant ‘suffering and smiling’.
In spite of the fabulous profiles and immense
goodwill enjoyed by some of these celebrated screen gods and goddesses,
the contents of their bank accounts are really nothing to be cheerful
about.
Even the ‘alarming’ increase in the volume of home
video films produced in Yoruba language ought to be sufficient to
improve the bank balances of such celebrities. To make matters worse,
many of them suffer from a financial disease known as ‘Withdrawal
Symptom.’ In fact, it is no longer news that a good number are regular
visitors to ATMs.
“As soon as money is paid into their bank accounts,
you will see them rushing to the nearest ATM to withdraw almost all the
cash,” an amused banker told Saturday Beats recently.
Certainly it is difficult to believe that no
reasonably successful Yoruba actor or actress has ever been paid up to
N500, 000 for a lead role in any movie. Half a million seems a fantastic
sum by all indications. Instead, the maximum fee payable to the best
actor or actress has remained between N150k and N250k. Even many of the
‘veterans’ receive as low as N10k to appear in a film feature.
While those that are constantly in demand or have won
awards in the industry, such as the likes of Funke Akindele and
Odunlade Adekola, earn a maximum of N250k per feature film, the rest are
left with peanuts. Interestingly, an exception to this ‘golden rule’ is
Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde. Saturday Beats investigation shows that she earns between N250k and N400k.
Another ‘big earning’ actor is Adebayo Salami, aka
Oga Bello. It is said that he hardly receives part payment from any
producer. Usually on location, he would demand his fee of not more that
N150,000 before going into action.
The same is said about Omotola who does not budge
until she or her manager has confirmed that a certain amount of money
has been deposited in her bankaccount.
However, the so-called big budget film productions
have never exceeded the N3m mark despite the fact that a lot of money
goes into paying the crew and cast. Money is also spent on production
equipment, lights, costumes, makeups, transport, food, accommodation,
generating plant sets, and other logistics/incidental expenses. That is
also why most of the cast and crew are grateful when the filmmaker or
marketer, who bankrolls the production, is able to hand them paltry sums
of money.
“You can count on your fingers the number of
individuals involved in the production who respectively got paid less
than N50,000,” a production hand says.
Also included in the budget are the editing suite
staff, copies of empty VCDs to be dubbed, posters and film jackets to be
printed, marketing and distribution.
Now we know why most of the highly paid or underpaid
actors/ actresses are writing their own movie scripts and directing or
producing their own movie projects, as well as saturating the market
with volumes of half-baked home videos every week.
Bukky Wright was the highest paid actress in the
Yoruba language genre before Funke Akindele broke her N150,000 per
featured film record with Jenifa.
Omilade Babatunde, aka Baba Suwe, used to be the
highest paid aactor until the much younger Odunlade Adekola, aka Cause
Trouble, began to earn up to N250k per feature film. The other notable
figures? Well, they are trying hard to catch up with Omotola, Funke and
Odunlade.
Omotola, Adebayo Salami, Funke Akindele, Bukky Wright and Odunlade Adekola were unavailable for comment.
But prolific film producer, Kunle Afolayan, said, “I
really don’t know how much they earn now because I’ve since moved on to
other major things.”
Top actress, Lizzy Anjorin, found it hard to answer the question.
“Ha! That’s a tough question that I don’t have a
ready answer for. Fees vary from one filmmaker to another. As for me, I
bill per script and I don’t appear in just about any film.”
Saturday Beats sought the view of scriptwriter/actor/filmmaker, Femi Davies.
He responded, “You can’t really get any top
actor/actress that will proudly and honestly tell you this is how much
he or she earns per film. But for my years in the industry, I don’t know
anyone that collects half a million naira per film he or she featured
in that’s not a film produced by him or her. Things can only get
better.”
The story is not different in the Igbo or the Hausa
language-speaking movie sector. We gathered that the actors/actresses
who in real life drive fancy cars, live in their own houses, dress in
the latest designer clothes, are the privileged ones who have been able
to sustain and maintain their celebrity/star status by engaging in
private business outside movies like car dealership, party/event
planning, boutiques, supermarkets, hair dressing saloons, voice-over on
radio/TV adverts, comperes at private and public functions, corporate
brand endorsements.
“God Knows That I Need A Wife” – Osita Iheme (Pawpaw)
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With his screen twin brother, Chinedu Ikedieze (Aki) already
married and expecting a first child with Nneoma, his darling wife, Osita
Iheme famously known as Pawpaw is quietly crying and eagerly searching
for a wife and soul mate this New Year.
And to prove how serious his search for a life partner is, the Nollywood phenomenon has taken his case to God in supplications.
Speaking in an exclusive intervi
ew with EE, the Imo State-born
entertainer who was raised in Aba, the commercial nerve centre of Abia
State, disclosed that he would like to settle down this year with his
missing rib.
“But the challenge is that I do not know whom to marry. I’m not really searching per se, of course, I have many female friends and fans. Some of them intimate, but picking the person I will spend the rest of my life with is what is delaying my settling down. God will help me decide soon, because with Him all things are possible.”
On how soon he is expecting to hear from God on the choice of a life partner, Iheme, who still laments the death of his dear father, refused to give details.
“I know I will be getting married someday, it could even be tomorrow, this month or even next month, but what I cannot tell is the very day or date. I have told you everything is in God’s hands and He alone will help me make the right choice. Mind you, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing…”
Is the lucky lady an actress or a member of the Nollywood family? We asked, taking into cognizance the fact that Aki, his acting twin brother picked a wife from the industry.
“I do not know and would not want to disclose anything about my future wife or even give clues. But I have always told you that I can marry an actress. Of course, there are a couple of them in the picture, but I have somebody I confide in always. I do not know if I’m still searching or not because love has been kind to me. God knows that I need a wife and He will surely provide a good one for me.”
Meanwhile, close pals and associates of the wealthy actor who was decorated with the national honour of MFR, last year by President Goodluck Jonathan, are insinuating that he might spin a surprise by unveiling his sweet heart at his forthcoming birthday, which holds on February 20.
Iheme, the last in a family of five, four boys and a girl, rose to prominence with his wondrous role as Pawpaw in the monster hit movie-Aki na Ukwa, in 2002, courtesy of Amayo Uzo Philips. He is currently studying Computer Science at the University of Lagos.
And to prove how serious his search for a life partner is, the Nollywood phenomenon has taken his case to God in supplications.
Speaking in an exclusive intervi
“But the challenge is that I do not know whom to marry. I’m not really searching per se, of course, I have many female friends and fans. Some of them intimate, but picking the person I will spend the rest of my life with is what is delaying my settling down. God will help me decide soon, because with Him all things are possible.”
On how soon he is expecting to hear from God on the choice of a life partner, Iheme, who still laments the death of his dear father, refused to give details.
“I know I will be getting married someday, it could even be tomorrow, this month or even next month, but what I cannot tell is the very day or date. I have told you everything is in God’s hands and He alone will help me make the right choice. Mind you, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing…”
Is the lucky lady an actress or a member of the Nollywood family? We asked, taking into cognizance the fact that Aki, his acting twin brother picked a wife from the industry.
“I do not know and would not want to disclose anything about my future wife or even give clues. But I have always told you that I can marry an actress. Of course, there are a couple of them in the picture, but I have somebody I confide in always. I do not know if I’m still searching or not because love has been kind to me. God knows that I need a wife and He will surely provide a good one for me.”
Meanwhile, close pals and associates of the wealthy actor who was decorated with the national honour of MFR, last year by President Goodluck Jonathan, are insinuating that he might spin a surprise by unveiling his sweet heart at his forthcoming birthday, which holds on February 20.
Iheme, the last in a family of five, four boys and a girl, rose to prominence with his wondrous role as Pawpaw in the monster hit movie-Aki na Ukwa, in 2002, courtesy of Amayo Uzo Philips. He is currently studying Computer Science at the University of Lagos.
The wife of the iconic African pop star, Annie Macaulay Idibia has opened up on why Tuface Idibia begged her to marry him.
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In a revealing interview she granted Jara, a TV programme on Africa Magic channel on DSTV, the singer’s wife reconstructed the scenario of how Tuface proposed to her and why he chose her among the other women in his life.
In her words:
“He called me up one morning that I should meet him in Lagos so that we can hang out. He said his friends are around and they want to take us out. So, I agreed to see him. I remember it was a particular friend of ours that was around that day, although I would not like to mention his name.
“And when I got to Lagos that day, he was like ‘let’s go to the club.’ When we got to the club, the place was totally empty. Obviously confused, I asked him, “baby, what are we doing here, it’s empty” and before I turned back, my brothers and friends showed up. I was so perplexed that I had to ask what everybody was doing around there and they said they heard we were there and they came.
“Just about few minutes after, Tuface picked up the microphone and I thought he was going to do all the normal hypes he does when he goes to the club. But he shocked me. He started saying things about how I have always been there for him since day one. How I have sacrificed alot for him. How I have cried and stood strong during his trying moments.
The truth is, he said so many things I can’t remember now. He said so many wonderful things that sent me into another world and I couldn’t even hear the other things he said.
“I didn’t even know when he walked up to me and he said “Please, will you marry me?” And I was like, “Can you imagine? What’s going on here?” he was saying so many things that I can’t even remember. It all blew my head.
“Although, it has not been easy since we had our traditional marriage. The truth is, it is not easy to be married to a superstar but I still live my normal life.
Right now, I feel 24 hours is not enough for me because I have my husband, my daughter and myself to take care of. It has really been crazy and God knows I have been trying my best. I wish I have more time to handle all of this.
“Just because of the lack of time, I haven’t been able do my normal acting jobs. I would still go on to do it soon because my husband is very supportive of my career and everything I do.
As a married woman, I would be more selective with the roles I take now. I would do away from controversial roles but that doesn’t mean if I see a good storyline I wouldn’t do it.
“One of the reasons I would be careful with the roles I take up now is because I am married. And when you are married you have to be able to manage your career such that it won’t affect your home front.
In any case, you need to learn some tips which will help you carry on in the marriage. But before that, you need to be sure that the man loves you as much as you love him.
Even if it is not as much as you love him, but be sure he loves you. You also need to be patient. Men are like babies and babies are very annoying. You need to scold them but you should pamper them more. You need to work on yourself so that you can be proud of yourself. Don’t fake anything.
“Very soon, Tuface and I plan to do our white wedding and you will all be invited and even though it will be something quiet. We don’t want to make too much noise about it. We just want a beautiful and memorable event.”
Deployment To Mali: Two Soldiers Killed, Five Wounded In Kogi Explosion
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Two soldiers were killed and five
others injured Saturday in an explosion in Okene city in Kogi state, an
army spokesman said, adding that they were part of the contingent set to
be deployed to Mali.
“We lost two soldiers while five others were wounded when the IED (improvised explosive device) planted on their route went off and hit their convoy,” Major General Bola Koleoso told AFP.
Koleoso said that the soldiers were among the troops being prepared for deployment in Mali as part of an African force to help the country retake its Islamist-controlled north.
“They are soldiers scheduled to go to Mali. We are preparing them ahead of their deployment to Mali,” he said without giving further details.
He did not say if the attack, which he said was the handiwork of suspected Boko Haram Islamists, targeted specifically the troops being prepared for the Mali mission.
A contingent of 80 Nigerian troops departed for Mali on Thursday as part of the UN-mandated African force
Nigeria, West Africa’s powerhouse, has boosted its troop allotment for Mali to 1,200 soldiers from 900 planned earlier, officials said Friday. (AFP)
“We lost two soldiers while five others were wounded when the IED (improvised explosive device) planted on their route went off and hit their convoy,” Major General Bola Koleoso told AFP.
Koleoso said that the soldiers were among the troops being prepared for deployment in Mali as part of an African force to help the country retake its Islamist-controlled north.
“They are soldiers scheduled to go to Mali. We are preparing them ahead of their deployment to Mali,” he said without giving further details.
He did not say if the attack, which he said was the handiwork of suspected Boko Haram Islamists, targeted specifically the troops being prepared for the Mali mission.
A contingent of 80 Nigerian troops departed for Mali on Thursday as part of the UN-mandated African force
Nigeria, West Africa’s powerhouse, has boosted its troop allotment for Mali to 1,200 soldiers from 900 planned earlier, officials said Friday. (AFP)
Owners of ‘arrested’ goats fined N10,000 by OWMA
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The owners of the five goats arrested by officials of Osun state
Waste Management Agency OWMA, at Dele-Yesa area of Osogbo, Osun state on
the 8th of Jan have been ordered to pay a sum of N10,000 each as fine
to the coffers of the state government.
Mr. Henry Ogunbanwo, Director of Environmental Management and Sanitation in the Agency, disclosed this in Oshogbo over the weekend.
He noted that any of the owners of the goats, who failed to pay the fine within seven days would lose his or her goat.
Ogunbanwo emphasised that the agency was acting in accordance with the provisions of the article 101 of the 2002 laws of Osun State which prohibits rearing of animals in residential areas, stressing that the agency had the backing of the court.
He further explained that the Agency had been empowered by a court of competent jurisdiction to arrest any animal roaming around residential areas within the state.
It would be recalled that residents of Dele-Yesa area, Osogbo, Osun state were taken by surprise on Tuesday, when the officials of Osun State Waste Management Agency, OWMA, arrested five Goats roaming the streets.
Mr. Henry Ogunbanwo, Director of Environmental Management and Sanitation in the Agency, disclosed this in Oshogbo over the weekend.
He noted that any of the owners of the goats, who failed to pay the fine within seven days would lose his or her goat.
Ogunbanwo emphasised that the agency was acting in accordance with the provisions of the article 101 of the 2002 laws of Osun State which prohibits rearing of animals in residential areas, stressing that the agency had the backing of the court.
He further explained that the Agency had been empowered by a court of competent jurisdiction to arrest any animal roaming around residential areas within the state.
It would be recalled that residents of Dele-Yesa area, Osogbo, Osun state were taken by surprise on Tuesday, when the officials of Osun State Waste Management Agency, OWMA, arrested five Goats roaming the streets.
BREAKING NEWS: Emir Of Kano Attacked, Driver And Guards Dead
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Militants driving a smashed SUV and motorbikes threw an improvised explosive device (IED) at the convoy of the The Emir of Kano, Ado Bayero, and then shot at his official vehicle, killing his driver and three of his guards, according to a military source.
The attack took place near the Hockey Field on Zoo Road by Total Gasoline station while the Emir was returning from the launching of an Islamic school at Mussalaci Murtala.
The Emir was unhurt in the attack and has since been moved to an undisclosed location.
Mr. Bayero was reportedly saved by his driver and orderly who formed a protective wall around him and took the bullets fired at him. They are both reportedly dead.
"His driver, called Barde, and orderly were killed instantly, and his first son, the Ciroman Kano is badly injured from bullet wounds," according to the source.
A lady whose house is not far from the scene of the attack says that a number of the emirs’ palace guards were also killed in the attack. About 10 people are feared dead from the attack.
"One of them even tried to take refuge in our house but could not succeed because the young men sitting in front of the building locked the doors after they heard the gunshots," she said.
Some residents in the area said Nigerian troops of the Joint Task Force later took over the scene of the attack while firing shots.
JTF spokesperson in Kano, Captain Ikedichi Iweha said he was still trying to get the full details of the attack.
President Jonathan Pays Surprise Visit To Police College In Lagos
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On the way to an ECOWAS meeting in the Ivory Coast, President
Goodluck Jonathan’s plane was diverted to Lagos where he made a
surprise visit to the police college in Ikeja.
Sources say that even his top aides were taken unaware by the unscheduled stop.
The police authorities were also caught unaware and had in fact rented the college to host a private wedding, which is illegal.
President Jonathan demanded that the top brass explain these actions to which they had no sufficient answers.
Upon hearing this the President immediately commenced an inspection of the college, starting with the student hostels where he discovered dilapidated conditions including no beds and toilets in the rooms.
President Jonathan moved from hostel to hostel on his inspection of the college
Sources say that even his top aides were taken unaware by the unscheduled stop.
The police authorities were also caught unaware and had in fact rented the college to host a private wedding, which is illegal.
President Jonathan demanded that the top brass explain these actions to which they had no sufficient answers.
Upon hearing this the President immediately commenced an inspection of the college, starting with the student hostels where he discovered dilapidated conditions including no beds and toilets in the rooms.
President Jonathan moved from hostel to hostel on his inspection of the college
Shakira shows off naked baby bump in UNICEF shoot with Pique
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Colombian
superstar Shakira and her footballer boyfriend Gerard Pique, have posed
in a couple of revealing pictures, with her baby bump laid bare.
The
couple who have been dating since March 2011, took part in a UNICEF
photoshoot, to help the organisation raise money for some of the world’s
underdeveloped countries.
“To
celebrate the arrival of our first child, we hope that, in his name,
other less privileged children in the world can have their basic needs
covered through gifts and donations. Thank you for sharing this
unforgettable moment with us,” they said.
Top Ten Signs Of A Desperate Man
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In the dating world, a desperate man is one who is over-eager, anxious,
presumptuous and willing to be with any woman to avoid being alone.
Women can spot desperation in a man from miles away, and if you suffer
from it, you’ll never stand a chance at getting any girl. A man who is
desperate may have a strong want and desire to have a relationship;
however, his behaviors can indicate low-self esteem and a host of other
issues that turn women off and can actually be viewed as creepy and
disturbing.
Here are 10 warning signs that can help you determine if you fit under the portrait of a desperate man:
1. Dropping your standards Desperate men are prepared to drop their dating standards to fill the huge emotional void in their life. Whether they want children or intimacy the desperate man will date who they have too to avoid being alone. They will be with any woman just for the sake of being attached while failing to realize that it’s better to be single and wait for the girl who is their type.
2. Constantly fishing for compliments The desperate man has low self-esteem, a poor self-image and needs to constantly hear how great he is and be assured of things. It doesn’t take long for women to get tired of constantly stroking your ego.
3. Overly Calling/Emailing/Texting Her If you want to run a woman off quickly, one of the best ways to do it is to overly call, email or send text messages early in a relationship, especially when she hasn’t returned any of your messages. The desperate man makes the fatal mistake of calling the woman he’s dating and asking “Did you just call me?” after receiving a call from an unrecognized number.
4. You’re always available Always being available makes women think that you don’t have a life of your own and actually lessens your own attractiveness, making you far less desirable. Being a challenge to women makes you more desirable.
5. You move too fast in relationships The desperate man will spend every single day with a new girl for weeks and never know basic information about her that normally should have been covered in the first few dates. Although finding love is based on each individual relationship and some people move quicker than others, the desperate man will move so quickly with things like intimacy and s*x that he will turn a woman off with his frantic desire for a relationship.
6. You’re constantly buying her gifts A desperate man constantly showers a woman with gifts without realizing that eventually she will become less thrilled and even annoyed receiving them. Even though the thought is nice, after a while the concept will begin to lose its meaning and she is going to get tired of always getting something.
7. Not giving her enough time and space Desperate men tend to be a bit on the invasive side when they always need to hang out at a woman’s home for hours on end, not respecting the fact that she has a life of her own life. Women don’t always want to hang out with you day in and day out and will quickly end relationships with guys not respecting their need for space.
8. You’re in constant agreement with everything she says Desperate men just sit there and agree with everything a woman says, thinking that’s what she wants. In reality, women want someone who is going to stimulate their minds and are not turned on by men they can completely control has no backbone.
9. You make her the center of your life too fast Desperate men tend to make the first woman that will go out with them the only person in their life and not take the time to continue dating and getting to know other women. Telling a woman “You’re the only woman in the world for me” before the three-week period will have her running for the hills.
10. Being overly nice all the time If a guy is too nice, too accommodating and tries to be the most giving person to a woman, she will begin to think he’s being insincere and will lose romantic interest quickly. She’ll also think that he’s only trying to achieve one thing: to get into her pants.
Here are 10 warning signs that can help you determine if you fit under the portrait of a desperate man:
1. Dropping your standards Desperate men are prepared to drop their dating standards to fill the huge emotional void in their life. Whether they want children or intimacy the desperate man will date who they have too to avoid being alone. They will be with any woman just for the sake of being attached while failing to realize that it’s better to be single and wait for the girl who is their type.
2. Constantly fishing for compliments The desperate man has low self-esteem, a poor self-image and needs to constantly hear how great he is and be assured of things. It doesn’t take long for women to get tired of constantly stroking your ego.
3. Overly Calling/Emailing/Texting Her If you want to run a woman off quickly, one of the best ways to do it is to overly call, email or send text messages early in a relationship, especially when she hasn’t returned any of your messages. The desperate man makes the fatal mistake of calling the woman he’s dating and asking “Did you just call me?” after receiving a call from an unrecognized number.
4. You’re always available Always being available makes women think that you don’t have a life of your own and actually lessens your own attractiveness, making you far less desirable. Being a challenge to women makes you more desirable.
5. You move too fast in relationships The desperate man will spend every single day with a new girl for weeks and never know basic information about her that normally should have been covered in the first few dates. Although finding love is based on each individual relationship and some people move quicker than others, the desperate man will move so quickly with things like intimacy and s*x that he will turn a woman off with his frantic desire for a relationship.
6. You’re constantly buying her gifts A desperate man constantly showers a woman with gifts without realizing that eventually she will become less thrilled and even annoyed receiving them. Even though the thought is nice, after a while the concept will begin to lose its meaning and she is going to get tired of always getting something.
7. Not giving her enough time and space Desperate men tend to be a bit on the invasive side when they always need to hang out at a woman’s home for hours on end, not respecting the fact that she has a life of her own life. Women don’t always want to hang out with you day in and day out and will quickly end relationships with guys not respecting their need for space.
8. You’re in constant agreement with everything she says Desperate men just sit there and agree with everything a woman says, thinking that’s what she wants. In reality, women want someone who is going to stimulate their minds and are not turned on by men they can completely control has no backbone.
9. You make her the center of your life too fast Desperate men tend to make the first woman that will go out with them the only person in their life and not take the time to continue dating and getting to know other women. Telling a woman “You’re the only woman in the world for me” before the three-week period will have her running for the hills.
10. Being overly nice all the time If a guy is too nice, too accommodating and tries to be the most giving person to a woman, she will begin to think he’s being insincere and will lose romantic interest quickly. She’ll also think that he’s only trying to achieve one thing: to get into her pants.
19/01/2013 Share Bombshell: NYSC Members Can’t Read, Write Or Speak Good English – Brigadier General Nnamdi Okore-Aff
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DIRECTOR-GENERAL
of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), Brig.-Gen. Nnamdi
Okore-Affia, Thursday lamented the quality of some of the present corps
members, describing them as poor in English Language. He believes it
would be a misplacement of priority if such corps members were deployed
as teachers in post-primary schools.
He
spoke during the 2013 Batch ‘A’ pre
-mobilisation workshop in Ilorin,
the Kwara State capital, on the theme, Generating Credible Data for a
Perfect Mobilization Process. According to him, the level of academic
deficiency among corps members cannot be divorced from prompt rejection
of some of them in their places of primary assignments. Therefore, since
the contact period between the corps members and the NYSC remains
minimal, he noted, it would be wrong for anybody to heap the blame of
their ineptitude on the NYSC as a body. “You will agree with me that it
is extremely difficult to re-orient a corps member who cannot read,”
Okore-Affia said. “To underscore the seriousness of this challenge, we
now have a situation whereby principals of schools and other employers
reject corps members because they cannot fit into their work schedule.
“Also,
JAMB registration number must henceforth be reflected alongside other
particulars of every graduate presented to the scheme for mobilization.”
Okore-Affia said the challenge of accurate and credible data generation
from institutions
producing corps members for the purpose of mobilizing qualified/eligible graduates into national service has been a recurring and Herculean task. According to him, a critical review of the data submitted by corps producing institutions for
2012 service year showed serious flaws which, if unchecked, could have caused grave danger to the NYSC.
producing corps members for the purpose of mobilizing qualified/eligible graduates into national service has been a recurring and Herculean task. According to him, a critical review of the data submitted by corps producing institutions for
2012 service year showed serious flaws which, if unchecked, could have caused grave danger to the NYSC.
How to Deal With a High Volume of Work
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A high volume of work at your job comes with feelings of stress. In some
cases, a heavy workload may also cause you to feel overwhelmed and
discouraged. While dealing with a high volume of work without any stress
may not be possible, there are tips and techniques you can follow to
reduce the stress of handling a heavy workload.
Minimize Distractions
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De-cluttering your space and minimizing distractions is one of the first steps to properly handling a heavy workload. Working in a cluttered space is not only distracting, but also makes it difficult to find the papers and other items you need to complete projects and tasks. A cluttered work area can also contain many distractions, causing you to waste valuable work time on non-important functions. To handle a heavy workload, spend 10 to 15 minutes a day de-cluttering your space and avoid common workplace distractions such as personal emails, phone calls and office chatter and gossip.
Work Late
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Oftentimes, all you need to get ahead of your heavy workload is an extended work period without any distractions. Plan to take work home just one day per week, and use that day to complete as much work as possible. While a 12 to 14 hour workday may seem long, completing several projects during one long day is often preferred to working a few extra hours in each day. This way, you will have one designated long day that will ease the stress and tension of your other working days.
Ask for Help
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At times, your workload may be too large for you to handle alone. During these times, the most productive and efficient action to take is to ask a co-worker for help. If you have co-workers in your office that have the ability to help you complete your projects, utilize them. If this is not the case, ask your supervisor or manager to assign someone to your project or task to help you lighten the workload.
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How to Create a Proper Resume Formats
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When you apply for new position, it is highly likely that you are up
against multiple other job candidates. Your resume might be the only
opportunity you get to sell yourself to a hiring manager and land a
face-to-face interview. Choosing the proper format for your resume will
highlight your strengths and point out your accomplishments to help you
get your foot in the door.
Chronological Resume
Resumes using a chronological format are the most common. If
you have a solid work history without many gaps and have generally
worked in the same field or type of position in the majority of these
jobs, using the chronological resume format is preferable. Employers
favor the chronological format, since it simplifies the task of
determining what jobs you have held and for what length of time.
To make a chronological resume, begin with an address block displaying your name and contact information. Include a career objective below the contact information. In the body of a chronological resume, list past job experience beginning with your most recent position and working backward. Include the name of the business, dates employed, job title and a brief description of your duties. You may also include a block for education details at the bottom of the resume.
If you have a fair amount of interruptions in your work
history or are attempting to change careers, a functional resume will
probably be the proper format choice. A functional resume concentrates
on your knowledge and skills, rather than the chronological order of
your previous positions. Using the functional resume format allows you
to display your talents and experiences that are relevant to the
position for which you are applying.
To make a chronological resume, begin with an address block displaying your name and contact information. Include a career objective below the contact information. In the body of a chronological resume, list past job experience beginning with your most recent position and working backward. Include the name of the business, dates employed, job title and a brief description of your duties. You may also include a block for education details at the bottom of the resume.
Functional Resume
To create a functional resume, begin with an address block providing
your name and contact information. Add a concise career objective, and
then list the fields in which you have worked. Include several
responsibilities, skills and accomplishments associated with each field,
listing each one as a bullet point.
If desired, at the bottom of the resume you may include a brief employment history listing businesses with whom you were employed as well as dates of employment. This is the combination resume format, as it combines the formats of a chronological resume with a functional resume.
If desired, at the bottom of the resume you may include a brief employment history listing businesses with whom you were employed as well as dates of employment. This is the combination resume format, as it combines the formats of a chronological resume with a functional resume.
How to Build or Create a Career Resume
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Creating a career resume has two main areas of focus: formatting and
efficient and effective wording. Proper formatting helps to lead the eye
to key words and efficient and effective wording is achieved by
creating sentences that quickly and strongly reflect your skills.
Resumes are always a work in progress, so by understanding the basic
functions of a resume, the small adjustments will be easier.
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Decide whether to create a functional/skills resume or a chronological work experience resume.
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Write your Objective or Summary of Qualifications.
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Write your Skills and Abilities and Work Experience sections.
4
Write your education.
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Write your Awards and Achievements.
A functional/skills resume outlines the relevant skills that you, the
applicant, have obtained. A functional/skills resume is best for an
applicant with little or no direct experience. This type of resume is
typically formatted using the sections Objective, Skills and Abilities,
Education, and Honors/Awards/Achievements/Other. A chronological resume
is best for applicants who have consistent work experience. This resume
is typically formatted using the sections Summary of Qualifications,
Work Experience (in reverse chronological order), Awards/Achievements
and Education.
An objective is one sentence explaining in specific the type of work you
are interested in. For example, "To obtain a Marketing
Planning/Coordination position with ABC company." It is important to be
very specific here, even referencing the company you are applying to, so
the hiring manager will know what position to consider you for. This
communicates to the reader that you know what type of position you want
and what that position entails. This small amount of customization also
communicates that you have taken the time to specifically apply with
that company. Keep in mind, if you do write a specific company name make
sure it is the company you are applying to. A Summary of Qualifications
outlines in three to five bullet points the type of skills you have
obtained through your work experience. These bullet points should give a
generalization of a skill that is further explained in your Work
Experience section. For example: "Consistently rose above recruitment
goals, five years in a row," then in your work experience note what the
recruitment goal was and your percentage of increase. Many times this is
the only area a hiring manager will read so make sure to use key words
from the job description and to accurately reflect who you are as a
worker.
Skills and Abilities should be presented under general headings such as
Customer Service, Reliability and Detail Oriented. Then under those
headings explain your abilities in a quantitative way. For example,
under Customer Service, you might say, "Created confidence in existing
clients considering not using staffing to taking on 3-6 employees at a
time." By explaining what you have achieved with numbers, a hiring
manager will be able to better understand at what level you are able to
produce. Work Experience should be outlined in reverse chronological
order with your most recent work experience first. List the company you
worked for, position title, how long you worked there in month and year
format, and three to five bullet points outlining what you achieved.
These bullet points should reflect your achievements in a quantitative
way and work directly with your Summary of Qualifications by explaining
why you have those qualifications.
For both types of resumes list the school you attended, the degree(s)
you earned, and for college degrees the month and year you received your
diploma. For a skills resume you can also list clubs and affiliations
that you were apart of during your schooling that are relevant to
outlining your skills.
These awards or achievements should be work related and reflect your
skills. Include in this section: Name of Award,
Association/Company/School presenting the award, the month and year the
award was received, and a brief sentence outlining what the award
signifies. Achievements could be things such as "#1 sales person three
years in a row," "Employee of the Month," "Dean's list four years in a
row."
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23 Ways To Win Over Your Mother-In-Law
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Are you married? About to marry? Are you terrified at the mere mention of the name ‘mother-in-law’? Do you feel a few drops of hot urine stream down your panties when you hear your mother-in-law knocking at the door? Well, I grew up in West Africa and I know that some mothers-in-law are actually monsters-in-law (but that is not to say that all daughters-in-law are angels). So, how do you become best of friends with the mother of your husband and lover? Let’s roll!
As a wife, it is a great fear lurking in your heart, and you wonder: Will my mother-in-law tear us apart? Will she hate me with passion? Or love me like a daughter? What can I do? What will I do? Will he support her and tell me to go to hell? Get a glass of chilled pineapple juice and relax! I can feel your heart thumping already,and yeah, get a handkerchief and wipe off the steamy sweat! The legendary war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been there from the beginning of time but with wisdom, you will not only survive it, you will be a darling daughter to your mama-in-law. Memorize these tips, girl!
1. Never See Your Mother-In-Law As Your Rival:
Actions start from thoughts and you nursing such dangerous ideas will only lead you astray. See her as who she is: your mother-in-law and the mother of yourhusband, and hopefully, your newest female friend. She is NOT your rival. Some ladies enter marriage with a nuclear arsenal and the mindset of ‘demolishing’ their ‘enemy’. Don’t create problems for yourself. As a woman thinketh in her heart, so she is. Yelz ke.
2. Do Not Put Him In A Tight Corner:
Some ladies go to the silly extent of giving the guy an ultimatum or asking that nauseating question to choose between you and his mother (like who does that?) If you cannot differentiate between maternal love and spousal love, then you are not ready to become a wife. Your roles are different, distinct AND separate. It is also an idiotic or kpalasa husband who will ask you to choose between him or your own mother. Water and oil are both liquids, but they just don’t mix. Hope you get that, sweetheart? Next!
3. Become A Detective:
Huh? I don’t mean you have to take up a by CouponDropDown" style="padding: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: none; list-style: none; border: 0px none; color:#444444; text-decoration: underline; -webkit-transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out;">job with the FBI or theSSS, but hell yes, get as much information as possible about your mother-in-law. Know her preferences, understand her thinking, comprehend what she likes (especially what will make her laugh no matter how angry she is) and those things that really makes her gogaga with fury. Such CIA job should not be too much foryou to do for a woman you will be stuck with for years.I said be a detective and not a spy….lol! Your hubby will surely help you with that.
4. Be Respectful And Courteous:
According to the Yorubas, ile oko, ile eko ni. What that means is that marriage is a place to learn (especially manners, etiquette and good behaviour). If you really love and respect your husband in the first place, you will have no problem with this. If you are too pompous, arrogant or downright disrespectful, you may as well stop reading here. In virtually all the societies of the world, respecting your in-laws is very crucial to having a warm relationship with them and stabilizing your own marriage. However, I must mention something very important here: to be respectful does not mean you should become a slave or servant. You are a wife and you must always maintain your dignity. Do not be rude but be firm. A daughter-in-law does not have the same spelling as a housemaid. Hope you get my English?
5. Never Make The Mistake:
Of what? Of pointing out a mistake, flaw or error of your mother-in-law in front of your hubby. You are his wife and as a lady, there are much more subtle and cunny ways to draw his attention. Do not criticize your mother-in-law. Ridicule her, you ridicule your lover, and of course, the granny of your kids. According to Shimon Peres, the Israeli President, there are two things in life that you cannot achieve without closing abit of your eyes: peace and love. Let me rephrase that: the personal lifestyle of your MIL is not your business.
6. Do Not Be Too Forward:
Inasmuch as you are to be proactive when relating with your mother-in-law, do not try too hard to impress. Do not go to her place everyday (familiarity breeds contempt) but see her on special occasions or when she requests to see your lovely face (with or without your husband and kids). According to one of the 48 Laws of Power, scarcity will always create value. If you don’t believe that, why are diamonds much more valued than stones and rocks? You will come out as fake and you may even be suspected of having a hidden agenda if you are always trying too hard. Remember how that girlfriend of yours irritates you with her fake life? Be yourself, be natural and genuine. She will appreciate that.
7. Let Her Know You Love Him:
Yes, forget the superficial jealousy, a mother-in-law will love you to pieces when she knows that her son is in safe hands. But, that has to be done with maturity. Every mother wants a good wife for her son but their maternal instincts makes it difficult for them to just let go. Blame the hormones. Prove to her (by your actions) that you are caring enough and you will over-ride her instincts.
8. Appreciate Her Gestures Of Kindness:
Not all mother-in-laws are devils. Some are really really very nice and will love you immensely even before they meet you. Appreciate them and not take them for granted.
9. Discuss With Him:
In a case where your duties as a wife are being encroached by an overbearing mother-in-law who willdictate what he eats or what he wears, register your displeasure with him (but relate well with her). A loving husband will come back to his senses, and a sensible hubby will not even allow such a scenario in the first place.
10. Place Yourself In Her Shoes:
Know that it hurts her and is a patch of mixed feelings. Yes, he is your husband but it’s still her son, even though she now knows that another lady (YOU!) will now get all the attention and devotion that she has received UNCHALLENGED for decades. She will subconsciously see you as a coup-plotter ovethrowing her ‘government’, and displacing her from power. Onceyou understand this, you should be smart enough to sympathize with her by reacting with wisdom. In short,do not take everything personal.
11. Detach Yourself When It Gets Too Hot:
If she is still determined to give you a tough time and make life hell for you, detach yourself emotionally anddiscuss with your husband. Just know that some mother-in-laws are incorrigible and can never be satisfied. Do not kill yourself over that. Maintain your distance but never disrespect her or worsen the condition. At this point, your hubby will do the rest of the healing.
12. Gauge Yourself:
Are you wicked yourself? Yes, you. Stop rolling your eyes…lol! Is there anything evil or indecent about you that is always pissing off your mother-in-law? For the sake of your marriage and peace in your home, assess yourself and make sure that there is no fault from yourown side.
13. Draw The Lines:
You married her son, and not her. Let her know when she is crossing the boundaries. Do this compassionately and very subtly. Get clues from your spouse. In the African setting, many mother-in-laws find it very easy to intimidate wives who do not seem firm or do not even know the basic responsibilities of awife. But remember, in asserting your rights as a wife, do it with the tact and skills of a diplomat. Don’t get him irritated.
14. Sync Her Up With Your Own Mother:
Mothers-in-law suffer from the same ‘son absence syndrome’ and always understand themselves better. Also, being of the same generation, age and mentality,your MIL is more likely to get along better with your mother than you, a ‘flashy’ babe of the 21st century. Let your mother handle that aspect. A good relationship between the two women will only tip the table in your favour, okay? Good.
15. Communicate With Her:
Did your heart just skip a beat?! I hear some of the ladies saying ‘Over my dead body! I can’t have anything to do with my mother-in-law’. Remember, loving the honey and hating the bees is not only hypocritical, it does not make sense. Choose your time very well, when she is in high spirits and have a deep, mother-daughter discussion with her. Do not avoid your MIL. You will only succeed in making yourself more of a stranger (which was your status before).
16. Be kind and compassionate:
Especially if she is of frail health. You’ve got a mother too and one day, you will also become a mother-in-law. Remember the Golden Rule, and yeah, the Law of Karma.
17. Chill:
Most of the time, mothers-in-law do not have any evil behind even the most mischievous of their actions. They are only a bit insecure thinking that no person is good enough for their child, or a woman has come to spoil the existing mother-son relationship. Such a reaction is perfectly normal and natural. Do not give yourself sleepless nights over that. Studies have show that most of the time, they mean no harm.
18. Prod Him On If Need Be:
Make sure your husband performs his roles and fulfills his responsibilities as a child to parents. Apart from thefact that you will be laying a very good foundation for your own kids, no one will accuse you of being a callous wife who made him turn his back on his siblings and parents. Be very firm and insistent on this. That he is madly in love with you does not mean he should forget his source. Remind him if he drifts off, it will be to your benefit.
19. Do Not Let Your Ego Get In The Way:
Do not think twice before apologizing and making amends if you have offended her. But do not degrade yourself for something you’ve never done. Do not allow anyone to blackmail you into submission or surrender. Funnily enough, she may find it difficult to apologize to you because of many reasons. Do not take that to heart. It is the pride of a mother-in-law.
20. Avoid Arguments With Her:
Oh, you prefer to cook meat by boiling it and she prefers steaks? Do not drag the issue needlessly. Calmly agree. Remember arguments with even your own Mom do not always come out nicely. It is better to lose an argument to your mother-in-law than for you to lose your mother-in-law to an argument. Use your head and keep your debating skills for your girlfriends (especially if you are a lawyer…lmao!)
21. Always See The Good Side Of Your MIL:
Positivity helps. Avoid being judgmental. You cannot form that bond of love if you are always judging her.
22. Let Her Mingle With Her Grandchildren Freely.
Studies have shown that mother-in-laws actually see your own kids as 100% theirs! If she wants to pamper them to high heavens and take them out and have them to herself all day long at the beach, just let them go. You will even have the whole house to yourself and your husband! And what can be better than that?#winks!
23. Pray, pray and PRAY!
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For those who think MILs are overbearing, you need to realize that she actually made him who he is. She fed him, suffered for him, was hurt because of him, kept him safe and warm, watched him grow…all these understandably makes her possessive (she has the right to), and that is normal (are you not jealously possessive of your hubby even without all these, yes, you now gerrit). She may also be afraid or insecure that she will grow old and the son she has laboured forall her life will forget and abandon her. As a daughter-in-law, ease all these fears, see things through her lenses and you become best of friends!
Remember that even the strongest of marriages can be destroyed with inlaw troubles. Be smart, diplomaticand calm in all your dealings. A friendly disposition will go a long way to helping you and making friends out of your enemies. Atimes, you may need to work very hard to make it work but do not give up because it is worth it.
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Creating your Talkdroid Messenger v0.8.3 build 54
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Talkdroid Messenger v0.8.3 build 54
Requirements: Android 2.2 and up
Overview: Talkdroid Messenger is a Windows Live Messenger instant messaging client or aka MSN Messenger.
This is a donate version without ads. Before posting a negative comment, please email me with your problem and i will try to find out a solution. Thanks.
NOTE: MSN and Windows Live are registered trademarks of Microsoft Corporation. This application is not affiliated in any way with Microsoft Corporation.
* Do you wanna translate this application in more languages? email me!
Talkdroid Messenger supports current Features:
* Multiple points of presence. Stay signed in in your computer and your phone at the same time.
* Facebook chat integration support. If you have your Facebook account linked with your Windows Live Messenger, you will could see and talk with you Facebook contacts!
* Email Notification. It notifies when you have new emails in your hotmail inbox.
* Yahoo contacts support. Now you can see and chat with yahoo contacts.
* SMS contacts support (only in some regions)
* Offline messages. Talkdroid automatically retrieves offline messages also at startup.
* Group chat. Press menu button for add a contact in your conversation.
* Windows Live Messenger 2011 chat icons.
* Roaming profile sync: lets retrieve and update your live roaming profile like photo, display name and personalmessage.
* Swipe among chats.
* Invisible sign in.
* Nudges.
* Chat history.
* Show if your contacts areconnected thought Web Messenger or mobile phone.
* Support to accept or decline
contact invitations.
* Notify when your contacts go online.
* Show what your contacts are listening.
Requirements: Android 2.2 and up
Overview: Talkdroid Messenger is a Windows Live Messenger instant messaging client or aka MSN Messenger.
This is a donate version without ads. Before posting a negative comment, please email me with your problem and i will try to find out a solution. Thanks.
NOTE: MSN and Windows Live are registered trademarks of Microsoft Corporation. This application is not affiliated in any way with Microsoft Corporation.
* Do you wanna translate this application in more languages? email me!
Talkdroid Messenger supports current Features:
* Multiple points of presence. Stay signed in in your computer and your phone at the same time.
* Facebook chat integration support. If you have your Facebook account linked with your Windows Live Messenger, you will could see and talk with you Facebook contacts!
* Email Notification. It notifies when you have new emails in your hotmail inbox.
* Yahoo contacts support. Now you can see and chat with yahoo contacts.
* SMS contacts support (only in some regions)
* Offline messages. Talkdroid automatically retrieves offline messages also at startup.
* Group chat. Press menu button for add a contact in your conversation.
* Windows Live Messenger 2011 chat icons.
* Roaming profile sync: lets retrieve and update your live roaming profile like photo, display name and personalmessage.
* Swipe among chats.
* Invisible sign in.
* Nudges.
* Chat history.
* Show if your contacts areconnected thought Web Messenger or mobile phone.
* Support to accept or decline
contact invitations.
* Notify when your contacts go online.
* Show what your contacts are listening.
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